Dual relationship

A situation in which therapist and client are also connected in some other way — through business, friendship or family.

Term

Why it’s a problem

Because the power in the relationship isn’t equal, and because the other connection affects judgement. That is why a therapist doesn’t work with friends, relatives or colleagues, and doesn’t enter into relationships with clients outside the room.

What this means for you

If we meet outside, I won’t greet you first — not out of rudeness, but because I’m protecting your privacy. You, of course, may.

See also

Solitude Time without others which — unlike loneliness — is chosen and often needed. Fear A response to perceived danger which — unlike anxiety — is directed at something concrete. Hypervigilance Constant excessive attention to danger, even when the surroundings are safe.

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