Envy
An uncomfortable feeling about what someone else has — and often a precise indicator of what you want yourself.
How it shows up
Envy is one of the most hidden feelings, because we’re ashamed of it. So we often dress it up as criticism: that person isn’t really successful, they were just lucky.
What we do with it in therapy
We treat envy as information. The question isn’t how to get rid of it, but what you want and have forbidden yourself. Beneath envy there is almost always an unspoken wish.
See also
Impostor syndrome
The feeling that you haven't earned your place and that sooner or later others will discover you aren't that capable.
Ending therapy
A planned end to the work, which is part of the process rather than its absence.
Rationalisation
A reasonable-sounding explanation for something you did for entirely different reasons.
