A space where the two of you can stop — without anyone winning. Together we look at what is really going on between you beneath the arguments, and find a language in which you hear each other again.
50 minutes · contribution €25 · in person in Ljubljana
Couples therapy is not a courtroom. I will not decide who is right, and I will not put anyone in the corner. My task is to hold a space in which you can both say what you cannot manage at home — and to make audible what lies beneath the words.
Almost every couple who comes has their argument. Always the same one, in different disguises. The dishes, the phone, the mother-in-law, money. The content changes, the shape stays. Underneath it is usually something else: the fear that I do not matter, that you do not see me, that I will be left alone.
We work with the pattern, not with the last argument. Once you both recognise the step each of you takes in this dance, the possibility appears for the first time that one of you might not take it.
You do not have to match any of these lines. They are simply what people most often come with.
This is not one person's fault. Each step is an understandable response to the one before.
A small gesture or sentence that opens an old wound in one of you.
One protects themselves — by withdrawing, criticising or falling silent.
The other reads this as rejection and protects themselves in their own way.
Both get proof of their worst fear — and the circle closes.
I make sure nobody leaves a session feeling they were treated as the problem.
If sparks fly during a session, that is welcome. That is exactly where the pattern shows itself live.
»You never listen to me« almost always means »I miss you«. We learn to say it differently.
The first session can also be individual — this often makes it easier for the other to come.
Through the form or by email. You do not have to explain everything — what brings you and roughly when a session would suit you is enough.
Within two working days at the latest. Together we find a time for a session at my practice in Ljubljana.
It is for getting to know each other and commits you to nothing. If we decide to continue, we go through and sign an informed consent form together.
50 minutes, usually once a week or every two weeks
No hidden costs and no commitment. Payment after each session. Free cancellation up to 24 hours before the appointment.
I am a trainee enrolled in the specialisation programme in marriage and family therapy. That is exactly why the contribution is lower than usual — and exactly why I review every case regularly with a licensed supervisor.
I am a marriage and family therapist in training and I am enrolled in the specialisation programme. I do not do this work alone: I review every case regularly with a supervisor who is licensed and has many years of practice.
In supervision we discuss the content of sessions without any details by which you could be identified — the supervisor never learns who you are. For you this means that behind me stands not only my own knowledge, but also the experience of someone who follows the work from the outside.
Scheduling is handled by the FDI Institute, where I am completing my training. To arrange an introductory session, write or call here.
Za vse drugo — vprašanje o načinu dela, sodelovanje, mediji — mi piši neposredno na veronika@veronikazeleznik.com.
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