Perfectionism
A standard that is never met — not because you aren't precise enough, but because the line moves with you.
How it shows up in daily life
You put tasks off because you can’t do them well enough. When you do them, you feel no relief, only the search for the next flaw. You read praise as politeness. Perfectionism likes to present itself as a high standard, but it works like fear.
What we do with it in therapy
We look at when it began — often in surroundings where worth was conditional on achievement. Then we practise deliberate imperfection in small things, because a belief changes through experience, not through argument.
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See also
Supervision
A therapist's regular professional consultation with a more experienced colleague — without any details by which a client could be identified.
Vulnerability
The willingness to show something that could cost you — and, for exactly that reason, the condition for closeness.
Cortisol
The hormone that keeps the body on standby over the long term — useful in a burst, burdensome as a constant flow.
