Consequences instead of punishment
A response that is connected to the act and known in advance — not an expression of an adult's anger.
How it shows up
Punishment is often unconnected to the act and arises from being overwhelmed. A consequence is logical and announced: if the toy is thrown, the toy goes away for today.
What we do with it in therapy
With parents we work above all with what happens inside them before they react. A parenting technique without your own regulation doesn’t hold.
See also
Motivation
A state of readiness to act, which often comes after the action rather than before it.
Screens and children
A question that in families is often not about time but about who decides and what the screens are replacing.
Self-harm
Deliberately hurting yourself as a way of managing an unbearable emotional state.
