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Transference and countertransference

Transference is when you unconsciously carry feelings from earlier relationships onto the therapist; countertransference is the therapist's response to them.

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How it shows up in daily life

Suddenly it seems to you that I’m disappointed in you, although I said nothing of the sort. Or an urge arises with me to please, as you pleased at home. That isn’t a mistake; it is the most direct material we have.

What we do with it in therapy

We talk about it out loud. That is exactly why I have supervision — so that I recognise my responses as mine and don’t attribute them to you. The relationship in the room is the liveliest picture of relationships outside it.

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Why the therapeutic relationship heals: the science of secure connection 11 min branja What a therapist is really thinking during silence: a look at the therapist's stance 11 min branja Countertransference: what your therapist feels with you and why it belongs in therapy 11 min branja

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Empathy The ability to understand another person's experience without merging with it. Motivation A state of readiness to act, which often comes after the action rather than before it. Transition The period between what was and what isn't yet — the most vulnerable part of any change.

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