Disappointment
A collision between expectation and reality — unavoidable in relationships and not necessarily a sign of a mistake.
How it shows up
After the phase of falling in love comes the period when it becomes clear who the other person is. Many read that as proof they aren’t the right one. Often it is only the beginning of a relationship with a real person.
What we do with it in therapy
We look at what you expected and where the expectation came from. Some are worth voicing, others worth letting go.
See also
Gaslighting
A pattern in which someone systematically undermines your confidence in your own judgement, memory and experience.
Impostor syndrome
The feeling that you haven't earned your place and that sooner or later others will discover you aren't that capable.
Self-compassion
The ability to treat yourself in distress as you would a friend — without sugar-coating and without judging.
