Resentment
Anger that was never spoken and so settled — quiet, long-lasting and sour.
How it shows up
You don’t argue, but you become less and less generous. You keep an invisible account of who owes whom. Resentment is common in people who learned that anger isn’t allowed.
What we do with it in therapy
We don’t remove resentment by forgiving on command. First it has to come out what exactly was breached and what you needed at the time. Only then is forgiveness more than a word.
