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Every transition begins as the loss of something you knew how to do. Therapy through life transitions is support in that in-between space, when the old no longer holds and the new is not yet yours.
50 minutes · contribution €25 · in person in Ljubljana
What life transitions are
A transition is not an event but a period. A move takes one day, adjusting to it takes a year. It is in that gap that the feeling arises that something is wrong with us — everything is fine, after all, so why do we not feel well?
Researchers describe a similar arc for most people: a short period of elation, then a valley of doubt, tiredness and longing for the old, and only then a gradual settling in. The valley is not a sign that you chose wrongly. It is part of the way.
In therapy we do not look only for comfort. We look at what the transition took from you — a role, a rhythm, people, status, an idea of yourself — and which of those is worth rebuilding deliberately in a new form.
You may recognise yourself
- you changed jobs or cities and cannot settle in
- you have become a parent and no longer recognise yourself
- the children have left and the house is suddenly quiet
- retirement took away the structure and part of the meaning with it
- a decision is in front of you and you cannot make it
- you lost someone and life did not stop, although it should have
You do not have to match any of these lines. They are simply what people most often come with.
How this looks
The arc of a transition
When you know where on this curve you are, it is less frightening.
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Ending
Every transition begins with the end of something. That has to be acknowledged, not skipped.
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Elation
A short period of energy and novelty. It misleads, because it seems it will stay that way.
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The valley
Doubt, tiredness, longing. The hardest and the most normal part.
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Settling in
The new becomes yours. Not the same as before — different, and often wider.
In practice
How we work
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A map first
Together we name where on the arc you are. That alone usually lowers the panic.
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What you have lost
Even a good change takes something away. Until that is said, it drags on.
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Rhythms and supports
We put concrete things in place: what holds your week, who you can lean on, what is yours.
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Shorter work together
With transitions a few months is often enough. There is no need to promise a long road.
First step
How to begin
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Write me a few lines
Through the form or by email. You do not have to explain everything — what brings you and roughly when a session would suit you is enough.
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I reply personally
Within two working days at the latest. Together we find a time for a session at my practice in Ljubljana.
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Introductory session
It is for getting to know each other and commits you to nothing. If we decide to continue, we go through and sign an informed consent form together.
Contribution
Through life transitions
50 minutes, usually once a week, often for a shorter period
25 € / session
No hidden costs and no commitment. Payment after each session. Free cancellation up to 24 hours before the appointment.
Why the contribution is lower
I am a trainee enrolled in the specialisation programme in marriage and family therapy. That is exactly why the contribution is lower than usual — and exactly why I review every case regularly with a licensed supervisor.
Straight with you
I provide this service as a trainee under supervision
I am a marriage and family therapist in training and I am enrolled in the specialisation programme. I do not do this work alone: I review every case regularly with a supervisor who is licensed and has many years of practice.
In supervision we discuss the content of sessions without any details by which you could be identified — the supervisor never learns who you are. For you this means that behind me stands not only my own knowledge, but also the experience of someone who follows the work from the outside.
Booking
Booking a session
Scheduling is handled by the FDI Institute, where I am completing my training. To arrange an introductory session, write or call here.
Za vse drugo — vprašanje o načinu dela, sodelovanje, mediji — mi piši neposredno na veronika@veronikazeleznik.com.
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Contact
Take the first step
Write me a few lines about what weighs on you. I am happy to answer questions before you decide.
