Assertiveness
A way of expressing yourself that takes account of your needs and the other person's dignity at once.
How it shows up
Between passivity (you keep your needs quiet) and aggression (you assert them at someone else’s expense). Assertive is: I say what I notice, what I need and what I will do.
What we do with it in therapy
Often the difficulty isn’t the words but the belief that your need carries no weight. So we practise not only the sentences but also what happens inside you when you say them.
See also
See also
Caffeine
A substance that blocks the tiredness signal — it doesn't add energy, it only masks its absence.
The therapeutic relationship
The relationship between you and your therapist, which isn't the frame for the work but the working tool itself.
Family myth
The story a family tells about itself, which determines what is allowed to be seen.
