Holiday plan
An agreement about holidays after a separation, made in advance — a period that reliably sharpens conflict.
What it’s for
Holidays carry expectations, memories and relatives. Without an agreement the same tension repeats every year, with the child in the middle.
What it contains
- The split, by year or by day — written down two years ahead.
- Handover time and place.
- Presents: who buys what, so it doesn’t become a competition.
- Relatives: when the child sees which grandparents.
- What stays the same — at least one ritual the child knows from before.
See also
The feelings wheel
A list of feelings in three rings — from four basic ones to precise shades, so you find the right word.
Rules for arguing
A few agreements a couple makes in calm times, which apply when things are not calm.
Crisis plan
A written list of warning signs, measures and contacts, prepared in advance — for when there is no strength left to think.
