Forgiveness
The decision to stop demanding payment for the past — but not that the act was acceptable.
How it shows up
Forgiveness is often confused with reconciliation or with forgetting. It is neither. You can forgive and at the same time decide never to be in contact with that person again.
What we do with it in therapy
Forgiving too quickly is often a flight from anger. So we don’t set it as a goal; it becomes a possibility only once the hurt has been heard. And it is always your choice, not a duty.
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See also
Cortisol
The hormone that keeps the body on standby over the long term — useful in a burst, burdensome as a constant flow.
Idealisation
An exaggerated, one-sided view of someone as perfect — often the prelude to an equally one-sided disappointment.
Gaslighting
A pattern in which someone systematically undermines your confidence in your own judgement, memory and experience.
