A boundary letter
A written, considered way of setting a boundary when a conversation in person isn't possible or safe.
What it’s for
With people who shout over you or twist your words, writing lets the boundary stay as you intended it.
The structure
- The fact: what is happening, without judgements and without history.
- The effect: what it means for me.
- The boundary: what applies from now on.
- What I will do if the boundary isn’t respected.
- No apologies, no explanation, no question at the end.
Before you send it
Leave it overnight and read it again. Remove anything whose purpose is to hurt.
See also
Prediction diary
You write down what you think will happen and, later, what actually did — a table that confronts anxiety with the outcome.
Burnout self-check
A few questions that help separate tiredness from burnout — not a diagnosis, but a starting point.
Rest plan
Rest broken down by type, so you get the kind you're actually short of.
