Expectations table
Each partner writes down their expectations about roles, money and time — then you compare them.
What it’s for
Most expectations in a relationship are never spoken; they are inherited from the family you grew up in and feel self-evident. The differences only show up in a collision.
How it goes
- Each of you writes alone what you expect regarding: the household, money, free time, relatives, parenting, closeness.
- Beside each, note where the expectation comes from — how it was at home.
- Swap the lists and read them without objecting.
- Mark the three points where the difference is largest. That is where the work is.
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