List of your resources
A written list of what has helped you before — for moments when you can't remember anything.
What it’s for
In distress, memory for your own resources disappears. A written list replaces that memory.
What to write
- Three things that settle you within five minutes.
- Three that give you energy back within half an hour.
- Three people you feel easier around.
- Three places where you breathe better.
- Three things you have already come through — the evidence you forget in distress.
See also
Time-out card
An agreed signal and rules for a pause, settled by the couple before they need them.
The feelings wheel
A list of feelings in three rings — from four basic ones to precise shades, so you find the right word.
Co-parenting agreement
A written agreement about the children's daily life after a separation — so the same things aren't negotiated again every week.
