Circle of control
Three circles that separate what you influence, what you partly influence, and what you don't at all.
What it’s for
Worry grows most where there is no influence. The circle shows where it makes sense to direct your energy — and where you are only losing it.
How it goes
- Draw three concentric circles: I influence, I partly influence, I don’t influence.
- Distribute everything that is weighing on you.
- For the inner circle, write one action for each item.
- For the outer one, write how you will live with it — that is the only task there.
See also
Questions for your doctor
A short list to take to an appointment, so you leave with answers rather than new doubts.
Rules for arguing
A few agreements a couple makes in calm times, which apply when things are not calm.
Boundary diary
A record of situations where you gave way, and of what led you to.
