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Mentalising

The ability to understand your own and others' behaviour as an expression of inner states, not as fact.

Term

How it shows up

»He slammed the door because he hates me« versus »he slammed the door; perhaps he was overwhelmed«. The first interpretation is certain, the second leaves room. The capacity to mentalise drops exactly when we need it most.

What we do with it in therapy

We practise holding back the conclusion and asking a question instead. This capacity is one of the strongest protective factors in relationships.

See also

Codependency A relationship in which your own worth is measured by how much you care for someone else. Anxious attachment A pattern in which uncertainty in a relationship intensifies the need for closeness and reassurance. Gratitude The ability to notice what is there, rather than only what is missing.

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