Regret
The pain of what you did or missed — and one of the most stubborn brakes on deciding.
How it shows up
Research shows that in the long run people regret what they didn’t do more than what they did. In the short run it is the reverse — which is why, at the moment of decision, doing nothing feels safer.
What we do with it in therapy
We don’t try to remove regret. We do look for what it tells you about what matters to you — and what can still be done about it.
See also
Becoming independent
The process in which a young adult becomes autonomous without having to cut contact.
Serotonin
A substance involved in mood, sleep and digestion — but the »too little serotonin« explanation is far too simple.
Decision paralysis
Getting stuck before a choice, arising not from lack of information but from fear of deciding wrongly.
