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Differences in sexual desire

A mismatch between partners in the frequency or form of intimacy — one of the most common themes with couples.

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How it shows up

One feels rejected, the other under pressure. Both withdraw and the gap widens. Often it isn’t about wanting sex but about wanting to be wanted.

What we do with it in therapy

We move the conversation away from counting and towards what each of you is looking for in closeness. Once the pressure drops, the space often opens by itself.

See also

Becoming independent The process in which a young adult becomes autonomous without having to cut contact. Homework in therapy Agreed things you do between sessions — often where most of it happens. Relational family therapy A Slovenian model connecting the systemic view with bodily experience and with the affect transmitted between family members.

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