Boundaries within a family
The invisible lines that determine who belongs where in a family and who decides what.
How it shows up
Boundaries that are too blurred mean a child knows everything about their parents’ marital troubles. Boundaries that are too rigid mean nothing is talked about. Both are a burden, just differently.
What we do with it in therapy
We look at where there should be a door and where a wall. With families, most of the work is precisely on the boundary between the couple part and the parenting part of the relationship.
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See also
Assertiveness
A way of expressing yourself that takes account of your needs and the other person's dignity at once.
Diagnosis in psychotherapy
A description of a difficulty that guides the work — not a label that says who you are.
Gratitude
The ability to notice what is there, rather than only what is missing.
