Trauma
Not the event itself but the trace it leaves — when an experience exceeds the capacity to process it and stays in the body as the present.
How it shows up in daily life
The body responds before thought understands: at a particular tone of voice, a smell, a quick movement. The reaction is out of proportion to the present situation, because it doesn’t belong to the present situation. Trauma isn’t a sign of weakness and doesn’t depend on how bad it was »objectively«.
What we do with it in therapy
We don’t open memories until there is enough safety and enough means of settling — otherwise being overwhelmed only entrenches the pattern. The work is slow and goes at your pace, not at the pace of the story.
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Temperament
An innate style of responding — speed, sensitivity, adaptability — visible even in a baby.
Manipulation
Influence in which the other person doesn't know what they are agreeing to.
Circadian rhythm
The internal clock that regulates sleep, wakefulness, temperature and hormones across roughly twenty-four hours.
