Jealousy
Fear of losing a relationship, which shows up as control, checking or withdrawal.
How it shows up
Checking a phone, questions that look innocent, comparisons. Jealousy often has little to do with the partner — it is an old insecurity that has found a present-day address.
What we do with it in therapy
We separate two things: genuine concern about behaviour, and an old fear. The first calls for a conversation, the second for work on yourself.
See also
School anxiety
School-related distress, which often shows up as a physical symptom in the mornings.
Rumination
The repeated turning over of the same thoughts, which looks like problem-solving but never reaches a solution.
Phases of therapy
The sequence the process usually follows: establishing safety, working through, integrating and ending.
