People-pleasing
A pattern in which you systematically put someone else's need before your own to keep the peace.
How it shows up
You say yes when you mean no. You have no opinion until you’ve heard someone else’s. People find you pleasant, while you increasingly feel a quiet resentment you don’t understand.
What we do with it in therapy
Accommodating others was once a safety strategy. We practise small, manageable refusals — and, harder still, bearing the discomfort that follows them.
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See also
Anxious attachment
A pattern in which uncertainty in a relationship intensifies the need for closeness and reassurance.
Schema therapy
An approach working with deep patterns formed in childhood, and with the ways we defend against them.
Jealousy
Fear of losing a relationship, which shows up as control, checking or withdrawal.
