Schema therapy
An approach working with deep patterns formed in childhood, and with the ways we defend against them.
What it means
Schemas are stubborn beliefs, such as abandonment or defectiveness, that formed because basic needs weren’t met. The therapy works with them and with the »modes« that switch on in adulthood.
How it differs
It combines behavioural techniques with work on early experience. Useful with entrenched patterns where shorter approaches haven’t sufficed.
See also
Disappointment
A collision between expectation and reality — unavoidable in relationships and not necessarily a sign of a mistake.
Belonging
The sense that you fit somewhere as you are — one of the basic human needs.
Avoidance
Retreating from what triggers distress — the fastest relief and the most reliable way of making sure the distress stays.
