Who heals the healers: how professionals find help for themselves
Doctors, lawyers and other professionals know what they would advise others, yet seek help late themselves. What they fear, what stays confidential and where they can begin.
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In-depth writing on psychotherapy, emotions and relationships — clear to read, grounded in the profession.
Psychotherapist, psychologist, psychiatrist: who does what and where to go
Psychiatrist, psychologist, psychotherapist: three similar titles, three different professions. I untangle who does what, who prescribes medication and where to start.
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Surrogacy: the ethical and emotional questions
Behind surrogacy there is almost always grief for a pregnancy, and relationships that shift along the way. What research shows and how to weigh the ethical question.
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Emotionally focused couples therapy (EFT): what it is and how it works
Emotionally focused couples therapy sees an argument as a dance in which both partners are caught. What EFT is, how it works, what the research says and how it differs from relational…
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Countertransference outside the therapy room: what your feelings tell you about others
Why are you drained after coffee with a friend, and why does that one colleague make you so angry? Everyday countertransference, emotional contagion and a three-column exercise. The last post in the…
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How long does therapy take, and why there is no shortcut
How long does therapy take? What research says about the curve of improvement, why there is no shortcut, and how to talk openly with your therapist about it.
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Faith and therapy: can I talk to my therapist about God?
You can talk about faith, doubt and non-belief in therapy. What research says about faith as a support and as a burden, and why a therapist does not convert you in either…
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Why victims go back to an abusive partner — and what holds them
Going back to an abusive partner is not proof that it wasn't that bad. What a trauma bond is, what happens in the first weeks after leaving, and how you can help.
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How to help someone you love with anxiety — without burning out
What to say and what not to, why reassurance isn't the same as support, and how loving accommodation quietly keeps anxiety going. And how to stay by someone without burning out.
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Will your therapist tell you what they feel? On disclosing countertransference
When a therapist tells you what they feel with you, and when it is better not to. What research shows, what happens when a therapist admits a mistake, and how to ask.…
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