When to see a doctor, when a sex therapist, and when couples therapy is enough
Sexual medicine, sex therapy and couples therapy ask different questions. How to know where to start — and why the body always comes first.
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Desire, closeness, the body and the conversation couples most like to put off. Posts on sexuality in a long relationship - professional, without shame, and clear about when to see a doctor first.
How sex survives routine: intimacy you can (and can't) plan
Does arranging Thursday kill romance or save it? What research says about scheduled sex, novelty in a shared life, and closeness that asks for nothing.
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Questioning your sexual orientation in adulthood: when the question comes later
Doubting your sexual orientation at forty is not a sign that something is wrong with you. What research on sexual fluidity says, and how to explore the question without panic.
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Open relationships and polyamory: what the research shows and what a couple should ask
Without cheerleading or judgement: what research says about consensual non-monogamy, stigma and jealousy, and which questions a couple can ask before deciding.
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Sexual anxiety: the fear of failing and how to break the loop
The fear that “it won't work” makes failing more likely. How the loop of sexual anxiety closes in men and women, and what can break it.
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Vaginismus: when your body says no, even though you say yes
With vaginismus the body closes up even when you want sex. What keeps it going, why a gynaecologist comes first and how it can be treated — alone and as a couple.
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Sex in later life: the subject nobody brings up
Sex changes with age, but it does not disappear. What older people, their children and doctors stay silent about — and how to open the subject without shame.
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Medication and sex: antidepressants, contraception and blood pressure
Antidepressants, hormonal contraception and blood pressure medication can affect desire and sexual response. What the research shows — and why you never stop a medicine on your own.
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Body image and sexuality: when shame stops you from undressing
When you watch and judge yourself during intimacy instead of feeling, body shame takes the attention pleasure needs. What the research shows and how to loosen the loop.
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Sexual fantasies: what they mean and whether to share them with your partner
The great majority of adults have sexual fantasies, yet almost all of us keep quiet about them. What research says, why a fantasy is not a wish to act, and how to…
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