Postnatal depression: when you "should" be happy and you are not
What separates the baby blues from depression, why it often begins in pregnancy, and why intrusive thoughts about the baby are not what you fear.
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Depression in men: anger, withdrawal and silence instead of tears
In men, depression often shows up as irritability, withdrawal, bodily pain and alcohol. Why we recognise it too late, and what actually helps.
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Co-parenting after separation: how to stay a team when you are no longer a couple
How to separate the partner role from the parent role, which agreements hold, what parallel parenting is in high conflict, and what never to do to your child.
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Why depression takes your drive exactly when you need it most
Drive is not character but a quiet calculation between expected reward and the cost of effort. Depression breaks it on both sides at once.
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Behavioural activation: how to move when there is no motivation
Action first, feeling afterwards. What behavioural activation looks like step by step, why the steps must be almost ridiculously small, and where it falls short.
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Leaving home: how a parent prepares for the empty room
A child rarely leaves in a single day — and a parent doesn't say goodbye all at once either. On grief before the leaving, handing things over in the last year, the…
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How to tell your children that their parents are separating
A concrete script for a hard conversation: what to agree on beforehand, what your child absolutely needs to hear, and how to say it to a preschooler, a schoolchild and a teenager.
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Loneliness in a relationship: alone beside someone
You have a partner, a shared home and a full diary, and still feel alone. How emotional absence and parallel lives develop, and what can be done before the silence sets hard.
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Depression in a relationship: what happens to the couple, and what you can do
When one partner becomes depressed, a couple quietly reorganises into patient and carer. How that happens, why withdrawal is not rejection, and how to take the roles back.
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How to support someone with depression without burning yourself out
A piece for the person doing the supporting. How much this may cost you, how to say a boundary, and when support stops being your job and becomes a doctor's.
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