How to make friends at forty: why it is harder and what helps
At forty, friends no longer appear by themselves. What research says about hours, repeated contact and vulnerability — and how to begin without grand gestures.
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Money and power in a couple: when one partner earns most
When one partner earns far more, the income gap tends to quietly turn into a power gap. On dependence, shame on both sides and how to talk about money without speaking in…
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Emotional abuse: how to recognise it when there are no bruises
No bruises and no X-ray, but there is fear. How emotional abuse shows itself, how it differs from an argument, and where to turn for help.
ReadWhen you are always the one who asks: sexual rejection and how to bear it
Sexual rejection hurts because it is so easily heard as “not you”. What happens between the one who asks and the one who declines — and how to say no gently and…
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Media, sponsors, expectations: the pressures athletes don’t talk about
Athletes are often worn down less by competition than by the public, contracts, scrutiny and national pride. How these pressures add up, and when to seek help.
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A teenager with no drive: laziness, resistance or distress?
When a teenager can't be bothered with anything, he may be tired, resisting, avoiding something or struggling. How to tell these apart, and how to respond without strengthening what you want to…
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The “never enough” syndrome: high performance at the top that brings no peace
You break the record on Tuesday and by Wednesday you’re looking at next year. How hedonic adaptation, contingent self-worth and perfectionism create the sense that it’s never enough — and how to…
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Workplace bullying or just a difficult relationship? How to tell them apart and what you can do about each
Not every tiresome colleague is a bully, and not all bullying is loud. How to tell the two apart, why to log incidents, and where to turn for help.
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When a parent depends on you: the role reversal that isn't
When you care for a parent, the tasks change places but the relationship does not. On filial maturity, invisible loyalties, siblings and the boundaries that make care sustainable.
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Founder anxiety: when the company is your child and your debt
Why founders wake at three in the morning, what we actually know about entrepreneurs' mental health, and how to tell a worry from a plan.
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