In-depth writing on psychotherapy, emotions and relationships — clear to read, grounded in the profession.
Families come for a verdict and leave with a pattern. Why the therapist will not be a judge, how responsibility differs from guilt, and what happens to anger when the culprit disappears.
ReadConversations with a teenager about mental health don't happen at the table, but in the car and in the bathroom doorway. What to say when they arrive with a self-diagnosis, how to…
ReadA first attack almost always feels unannounced. It often arrives after weeks of strain, just as the pressure lets go and you hear your own body again.
ReadAfter a first attack, fear moves from the world to your own body. How anticipation, body monitoring and safety behaviours make sure panic comes back.
ReadWhen a teenager's silence is a normal part of growing up and when it signals distress: why they go quiet, what we parents get wrong out of worry, and how therapy opens…
ReadAgoraphobia does not arrive as a decision but as a series of reasonable adjustments. How avoidance spreads step by step, and what it does to relationships.
ReadDuring a panic attack you are not short of oxygen but of carbon dioxide. Why the paper bag is a bad idea and what actually settles your breathing.
ReadHelp for carers of ageing parents exists, yet we rarely seek it. Five places to turn, and why asking for help is hardest for the people who always cope.
ReadWhy the whole family shifts when one member changes: homeostasis, the identified patient, circular causality and the boundaries between subsystems.
ReadYou wake in a full attack, with no dream and no reason. Why this happens at the passage into deep sleep, and what to do that night and the next day.
ReadIf one of these posts spoke to you, you are welcome to simply write to me.
