Fear of flying: what is going on and what helps
Fear of flying is not one fear: inside it are a crash, confined space, loss of control and your own panic. Why statistics don't reassure, what keeps the fear going and what…
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Confidence isn't volume: what trusting yourself really means
The loudest person in the room isn't necessarily the most confident. What quiet confidence is, how to recognise it in yourself, and why arrogance is a defence.
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When one job isn't enough: the psychology of living with two jobs
Two jobs mean more than a double schedule: you live in three systems at once — two teams and home. What this does to tiredness, shame, time and relationships.
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Life without children: chosen and unchosen
Without children is not one story. On grief without a date, a choice other people do not believe, and how the life you are living can become yours again.
Read“Why can't you be like your sister?” Sibling comparison and how you see yourself
Why being compared with a brother or sister cuts deeper than any other comparison, when parents treating children differently hurts, and how childhood labels live on into adulthood.
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Decision paralysis: when thinking it over becomes a way of avoiding
Three weeks of weighing it up and no closer? Decision paralysis isn't a lack of thought — it's fear of loss and regret. Here's how to find your way out.
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Stalking and harassment after a break-up: when “no” does not stop the contact
Messages, turning up outside your work, tracking your location. When contact after a break-up becomes stalking, what it does to you, and where to find help in Slovenia.
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When a leader burns out: who helps the person at the top
Leaders burn out in the same ways as everyone else, but each sign hides behind a quality others praise. Why the person at the top finds it hardest to ask for help…
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How to notice a thought instead of following it: an introduction to cognitive defusion
A thought isn't an order — it's an event in the mind. Ten tested cognitive defusion techniques for noticing a thought instead of blindly following it.
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Burnout and shame: why it is so hard to say out loud
There is a lot of talk about exhaustion in burnout and little about shame. Why we feel it, how it differs from guilt, and how to tell your manager, partner and family.
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