What to do with what you learn: life after seeing your family patterns
What to do with what you have learned about your family: the first days, small experiments, the trap of intellectualising, and when to speak about it with your family.
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Loneliness and health: what the research shows and what it doesn't
Headlines compare loneliness to fifteen cigarettes a day. What Julianne Holt-Lunstad's analyses actually measured, how loneliness affects the body, and why one quiet weekend is not dangerous.
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A diagnosis is a map, not a name for you: what the ICD says and what it does not
How a mental health diagnosis is made, what it gives you and what it does not tell you — and why therapy treats it as a starting point rather than a conclusion.
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Ectopic pregnancy: a loss that happens all at once
An ectopic pregnancy is often a double experience: the loss of a pregnancy and danger to your own health at the same time. Why grief so easily gets no room here, and…
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Chemical imbalance: the serotonin story that science outgrew
Where the serotonin deficiency account came from, what unsettled it, why antidepressants work anyway, and what it means for you.
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A Look into the Past as an entry into therapy, or as a standalone experience
A genogram session can be an entry into regular therapy or a complete one-off experience. Criteria for choosing, and an honest look at what a single session can do.
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Antidepressants and therapy are not rivals: what the research says about combining them
Medication or therapy? The question is wrongly framed. What meta-analyses show, when each route works, and what to ask your doctor.
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A symptom as a message: medicine asks "what do you have", therapy asks "what happened to you"
Why every persistent pattern does something, when to reduce a symptom first and when to ask about its function — and where this view has its blind spot.
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"Now I understand why I do this": the aha moments of looking into the past
"So I am not mad, this has a history." What insight is, why it brings such relief, which aha moments are the most common, and why insight alone is not enough.
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When you recognise yourself as the one who is violent
What to do with the realisation that someone is afraid of you. On responsibility without excuses, shame, an apology that isn't enough, and where change begins.
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