Losing your homeland: moving abroad and quiet grief
Moving abroad can be a form of grief, even when it was your own decision. On ambiguous loss, acculturative stress, double belonging and returning home.
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Young athletes and parents: the pressure we don't see
The drive home after a match, a face in the stands, early specialisation. How the parents of young athletes create pressure without meaning to, and what a child really needs.
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Genogram: what your family tree can tell you about yourself
A genogram is a family tree of relationships, not of names. See what three generations on a single sheet of paper can reveal about your patterns.
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When everyone around you is pregnant: holidays, christenings and birthdays
Why other people's pregnancies hurt so much when you face infertility, why envy doesn't make you a bad person, and how boundaries and a small plan can get you through a christening,…
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On the bench: when you don’t play and wonder what you’re worth
For a substitute athlete, a selection decision can quickly turn into a verdict on yourself. How to separate a fact about the match from your sense of worth.
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When your desires don't match: sex in a long relationship
A difference in sexual desire is almost the rule in long relationships. What responsive desire is, why the problem is often too many brakes rather than too little accelerator, and how to…
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Why we repeat the same patterns in relationships — and what attachment theory says
The same film with different actors again? Meet the four attachment styles, why familiar patterns pull at you, and how attachment can change.
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Why depression makes you withdraw just when you need people most
Unanswered messages, cancelled coffees, silence. Why depression and loneliness feed each other, what shame has to do with it, and how very small steps can break the cycle.
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Elder abuse: the least visible form of violence
One in six people over 60 experience some form of abuse in a single year — most often from someone they trust. Why it stays hidden, and how to ask when you…
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Anxiety and avoidance: why avoiding helps you today and harms you tomorrow
Stepping back brings instant relief — and that is exactly why it keeps anxiety going. On negative reinforcement, safety behaviours, a shrinking life and how to find your way back step by…
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