In-depth writing on psychotherapy, emotions and relationships — clear to read, grounded in the profession.
The end of a relationship is a death in everything but name, only without a funeral or condolences. Why you have every right to grieve, and how that grief unfolds.
ReadSibling estrangement rarely happens in a day and is almost never just between two people. On roles, loyalty, coalitions and a loss that has no funeral.
ReadMost people with depression go to work, but every task takes twice the strength. On presenteeism, concentration, whom to tell, when to take sick leave and how to return.
ReadWhy some people make decisions that never feel truly made – and how to move from a circle of doubt, checking and anxiety to peace with a choice that is good enough.
ReadDivorce is one of the greatest upheavals the psychology of stress knows. A map of the road: from shock and survival to grief, children and a new beginning.
ReadYou're caring for a parent who hurt you as a child, and everyone sees only a dutiful son or daughter. Why this kind of care is harder, what you owe and what…
ReadHigh-functioning anxiety is not an official diagnosis, but it is a very real experience: achievement as a defence, perfectionism, a body on standby and people around you who notice nothing.
ReadCan you talk calmly about hard things while your body still reacts? Read what body-oriented psychotherapy is, and why conversation is sometimes not enough.
ReadIs trauma really inherited? What research on survivors’ descendants has shown, why relationships matter more than genes, and what epigenetics does not (yet) prove.
ReadWhy people so often blame themselves after emotional, physical or sexual abuse, how that guilt settles into self-image, and how to slowly return it to where it belongs.
ReadIf one of these posts spoke to you, you are welcome to simply write to me.
