When is enough enough? Deciding to end fertility treatment
Fertility treatment has no natural end. Why deciding to stop is so hard, everything that ends with it, and how to make the decision without it tearing you or your relationship apart.
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The loss of childhood: when you had to grow up too soon
Parentification leaves a loss with no date: a childhood in which you could have been a child. How to recognise it, why grieving it is so quiet, and what helps.
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Children and divorce: what the research really says about what protects them
The research is clear: what harms children most is conflict between their parents, not the divorce itself. Read what really protects a child and how to break the news.
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Going it alone: the hardest psychological part of working for yourself
When you work alone, you lose not just colleagues but the roles they carried: the deadline, the limit, the praise and the release valve. What this does to your sense of worth,…
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When a child is violent towards a parent: the violence parents keep quiet about
How do you say you are afraid of your own child? On children’s violence towards parents, the shame that silences them, and a third way between giving in and hitting back.
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Defeat, mistakes and shame: how athletes process failure
After a defeat, “I made a mistake” quickly turns into “I am a mistake”. On shame and guilt, public criticism, self-compassion in athletes and analysis without self-flagellation.
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What happens to the nervous system when a long relationship falls apart
Can't sleep, eat or breathe? The end of a long relationship is a physiological event: you have lost the co-regulator of your nervous system. Here is what happens, and what calms it.
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The couple after the baby: keeping your partnership alive through parenthood
For roughly two thirds of mothers, relationship satisfaction drops after a baby arrives. What sets apart the couples for whom it does not, and how to share the invisible work too.
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When you have to let a relative go: the guilt that follows you home
Letting a relative go from a family business is a business decision the family experiences as a message about belonging. On guilt, moral distress and the first holidays afterwards.
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Arguments with your teenager: what is developmentally normal and what is not
Most arguments in adolescence mean the relationship is being reshaped, not falling apart. Where the line is, what you are really arguing about, and how to repair.
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