Emotional dysregulation in ADHD: when a feeling arrives too fast
Anger at a jammed printer, tears at gentle criticism, shame afterwards. Why emotions in ADHD often arrive too fast and how to put a pause between trigger and response.
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Staying friends after a break-up: myth or realistic goal?
"Let's stay friends" — a bridge, or a door left ajar? What research says about friendship with an ex, and three questions to help you judge your own situation.
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Lonely at the top: why people in leadership have no one to talk to
You talk to people all day, then realise in the evening that you haven't really spoken to anyone. Where leaders' loneliness comes from and where to find a space to speak without…
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Loneliness is not solitude: the difference that changes everything
Solitude is a choice, loneliness a feeling, social isolation a fact. What will help depends on which of the three describes your situation.
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Tours, shoots and late nights: the body and relationships in creative careers
Irregular hours, night work and long absences strain both sleep and relationships. Why coming home is often the hardest part, and how to give it a shape.
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Why we think about an ex for so long after a break-up — the neuroscience of attachment
Why do thoughts of an ex keep returning when your reasoning is perfectly clear? Neuroscience has an answer: your reward system is in withdrawal, and withdrawal passes.
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Migraine and depression: a connection that has nothing to do with character
Depression is several times more common in people with migraine, and the link runs both ways. Why it is not about character, and how to tell exhaustion after an attack from depression.
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Burnout and relationships: what happens to a couple when one partner gives out
Burnout never affects just one person. How stress comes home, why a partner becomes a carer, where resentment comes from and how to be with a burned-out partner without burning out yourself.
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Repair attempts: how to stop an argument before it gets out of hand
A joke, a touch, “wait, let’s start again”: small repair attempts shape a couple more than the argument itself. Why we miss them when flooded, and how to learn to accept them.
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Who am I without you? Rebuilding your identity after divorce
Over time a partner becomes part of your sense of self, which is why separation feels like losing yourself. Read how to rebuild your identity after divorce.
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