The weight of a surname: growing up with a well-known name
What it means to grow up with a surname everyone knows: legacy, expectations and other people's judgements — and how to find what is yours alone.
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Why after a holiday anxiety arrives before the rest does
Your body is still on the beach, but your mind is already at the office. Why the effect of a holiday fades so fast, what shifted at work while you were away,…
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Trauma triggers: why a smell or a tone of voice brings it all back
A cologne, a sharper tone, an anniversary: why trauma triggers bring the past back as if it were happening now, and how getting to know them takes away their power.
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Men’s friendships: why there are fewer of them with the years, and what keeps them going
Men’s friendships rarely end in a quarrel; more often the framework that brought you together disappears. On shoulder-to-shoulder time, vulnerability and the one message it starts with.
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Perfect on the outside: when a couple lives for the image
When a couple's outward image matters more than what happens between them. On shame, hiding, the price of perfection and how the way back to real closeness begins.
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When you are passed over: how to live through a sense of injustice without growing bitter
When you are passed over, the way it happened often hurts more than the outcome. What fairness research shows, what to do with the anger and how to keep it from turning…
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Online attacks: what comments do to athletes and how to protect yourself
One nasty comment after a match can outweigh a hundred kind ones and steal a night’s sleep. Why online attacks hit so hard, how to break the night-reading cycle and who can…
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ADHD and procrastination: why willpower is not the answer
With ADHD, procrastination gets stuck where willpower doesn't reach: at getting started, at a reward that is too far away and at a wall of shame. What helps instead of gritting your…
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Sex after sexual abuse: the way back to your own body
After sexual abuse, desire and fear can live in the same body. On triggers, dissociation, the right to say no, and how a partner can be an ally on the way back.
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Leaders and sleep: when the nights are too short for good decisions
“I'm used to five hours” is one of the most misleading sentences at the top. What sleep loss does to judgement, emotions and your team — and how to close the day.
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