Pornography and your relationship: when it becomes a problem
Research on pornography and relationships is mixed. What matters more than quantity is what happens between you: secrecy, different values, comparison or withdrawal from closeness.
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A team that isn’t a friend: loneliness in team sport
You’re surrounded by teammates all day, yet in the evening there’s no one to call. Why a team can be a place of quiet solitude, and what you can do about it.
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Why leaving an abusive relationship is so hard
“Why don’t you just leave?” is the wrong question. What stands between a person and the door — from fear and traumatic bonding to money, children and shame.
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Checking and reassurance-seeking: why the relief is so short-lived
The door is locked, and still you go back. Why checking soothes only for a moment, why a loved one's answer works the same way, and what the research knows about it.
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The boss who leads through fear: what happens to your nervous system every day
Shouting, public humiliation and unpredictable outbursts don't stay in the office. What fear at work does to your body, your thinking and your team, day after day — and what you can…
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Leaders' mental health: why it's a question for the organisation, not just the individual
The mood of the person at the top spills across the whole team — into silence, hidden mistakes and bad news that arrives too late. Why leaders' mental health matters to the…
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Social media and teenage girls: the comparison you cannot see
Your daughter looks at her phone and goes quiet. How silent comparison on social media works, what research really knows about it, and how to ask her without the door closing.
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The leader who wants to be liked: what conflict avoidance costs
A kind leader who smooths over every tension often brings the team not peace but uncertainty and corridor conversations. What lies beneath conflict avoidance, and how to begin differently.
ReadCo-founder conflict: when a business marriage falls apart
Co-founders share money, responsibility and more hours than they spend with family. Why a dispute about the work slides into a dispute about the person, and what couples research tells us.
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Moving a parent into a care home: the decision and the guilt it brings
The decision to move a parent into a care home often comes with guilt that doesn’t fade even after the move. Where it comes from, what lies beneath it and when it…
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