Alcohol and stimulants in demanding professions: quiet self-help
A glass to switch off at night, a stimulant to start up in the morning. Why doctors, lawyers and bankers often turn to quiet self-help, where the line is, and where to…
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Growing up with a narcissistic parent: the child as a mirror
Conditional love, the golden child and the scapegoat: what happens to a child who had to mirror a parent, and what they carry into adulthood.
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Sex after infidelity: when two bodies meet again
When a couple stays together after infidelity, the bedroom often brings withdrawal, a sudden hunger for closeness and intrusive images. How to find a pace that feels safe for both.
ReadTwo careers, one home: whose job really counts for more
When you both have careers, you often decide whose counts for more without ever deciding. Three patterns, three transitions and the invisible agreements worth putting into words.
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Creativity and depression: the myth of the suffering artist
Does an artist need pain in order to create? What research really shows about creativity and mental health, and why treating depression doesn't take away inspiration.
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Chronic fatigue: when there is no diagnosis, but the symptoms are real
You sleep enough, your results are normal, yet the tiredness won't lift. What it means when there is no diagnosis, the different kinds of tiredness, and where psychotherapy helps — and where…
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Allowing yourself a different path: deciding not to carry on the family business
Guilt, your parents’ disappointment and dreading Sunday lunch: how to make the decision to take a different path and still stay close to your family.
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How much of work belongs at home: when your partner talks about the job every evening
Talking about work at home can bring relief, or replay the same story every night. When it helps, what happens to the one who listens, and why good news matters as much…
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Pregnancy loss: the grief others don't acknowledge
With a pregnancy loss you lose not only the pregnancy but the child in your mind, the future and trust in your body. On guilt, fear, a partner who grieves differently, and…
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Family holidays when there is an inheritance on the table
When a family that will one day divide its assets gathers at the holiday table, the quarrel is rarely about money — it is about who was seen and taken into account.
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