When addiction reaches the whole family: the roles children take on
Children in a family with addiction get no explanation - they get a job. Which roles form, what each costs, and what protects a child while it is still going on.
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What I inherited besides genes: a family's emotional legacy
Besides genes you inherit attitudes to emotions, money, work and conflict, and also resilience and humour. Time for an inventory: what to keep, what to give back?
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Cannabis: when it becomes a problem and when it does not
Most users have no problem, a minority do. The line is not frequency - it is control, letting things go, and what sleep and anxiety do when you stop.
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Violence and addiction: when they are linked and when alcohol is just an excuse
Alcohol and intimate partner violence often go together, but the link is not the cause. Why addiction treatment doesn't necessarily stop violence, and why safety comes first.
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Caffeine, nicotine and energy drinks: the small addictions we do not count
Coffee does not give you energy, it covers tiredness. On how the substances nobody counts as addictions actually work, and what they repair in your day.
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How to draw your own genogram: symbols, three generations and the right questions
A practical guide: symbols, relationship lines, three generations and the right questions for relatives, so you can draw your own genogram step by step.
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Pornography addiction: what we know and what is still contested
There is no diagnosis called pornography addiction. There is something else. On what the research actually shows and why shame often hurts more than the behaviour.
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Video games and young people: when is it an addiction
Hours in front of a screen tell you almost nothing. What the criteria for gaming disorder really are, why games work so well, and when the game is a consequence rather than…
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When a teenager lies: what lies beneath
Most teenagers lie to their parents at some point. Why they do it, what a lie says about the relationship, and how to respond so that next time it is easier to…
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Why we choose partners who remind us of our parents
Why does your partner remind you of your parents, even when you chose the exact opposite? About the maps you carry inside you, and why this is not a verdict.
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