Harm reduction: an approach that does not demand immediate abstinence
Help should not be conditional on a decision a person cannot yet make. On what harm reduction is, what the evidence shows, and where its limits lie.
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Loneliness in the middle of a full life: alone among people
A job, a family, friends, and still the sense that nobody knows you. Why a full diary does not protect against loneliness, and what really counts in contact.
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Life after addiction: who are you when you no longer drink
Stopping is not the goal but the start of the second part. On the flat stretch, the empty space that remains, and the question of who you are now.
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Family secrets and unfinished stories: where a genogram finds them
Secrets are passed on not by telling but by silence. How they affect those who don't know them, where a genogram gives them away, and when to bring them into the open.
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Moving back home: when you return because of a parent
When you move back into the family home because a parent is ill or alone, old roles come back with you. How to stay an adult under the roof where you were…
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The stages of grief are a myth: what really happens after a loss
The five stages were never about bereaved people, and the data do not support them. What we have instead, and why it is kinder to the person living it.
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The first year after a death: what to expect, month by month
What often happens in the first year after a loss and in what order - with no promise of when it should get easier. A map, not a calendar.
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Intergenerational transmission: how patterns pass on without us noticing
Modelling, attachment, unspoken rules and the body: four channels through which patterns travel across generations, and where you can stop them.
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The grief nobody acknowledges: miscarriage, divorce, losing a job
Some losses come with no funeral, no leave and no condolences. Why the silence around them often hurts more than the loss, and what to do with it.
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When a parent and a child both have ADHD
When you recognise yourself in your child's ADHD, you have to build the routine you have always found hardest. Where it is difficult, where it is a strength, and how to repair…
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