How to talk to a child about death - by age
Why "gone to sleep" is a dangerous phrase, what a child understands at which age, and how to say that someone has died - clearly and without euphemism.
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What a genogram reveals: patterns that repeat in a family across generations
A genogram is read in layers: dates that line up, threads of occupations and illnesses, triangles and outcasts. See what three generations on one sheet can reveal.
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What to say to someone grieving, and what not to (and why silence isn't a mistake)
Why kindly meant sentences hurt, what works instead, and why staying quiet beside a grieving person is often better than comfort.
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When grief doesn't pass: what prolonged grief disorder is
Prolonged grief disorder in ICD-11 and DSM-5-TR: what it describes, whom it affects, what helps, and why the months in the criteria are not a deadline.
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What helps with migraine besides medication: relaxation techniques with evidence
Migraine is a neurological disease, yet relaxation techniques have good evidence for preventing attacks. Which ones, why they work, how to practise them and where their limits lie.
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What a therapist is really thinking during silence: a look at the therapist's stance
A therapist's silence is neither a test nor coldness: it is room for you. What happens in the quiet, why you don't get advice, and when silence really is a problem.
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Anniversaries, holidays and the empty chair: getting through the dates
Why the weeks before an anniversary are often worse than the day, what to do about his chair at the table, and how to make a plan that holds for this year…
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Grief and the body: why we fall ill more often after a loss
What happens to sleep, the immune response and the heart after a loss, why test results can be fine, and what actually helps in this period.
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Fear of commitment: when closeness is both a wish and a threat
You love the person, yet with every step forward something in you tightens. Where fear of commitment comes from, how to tell it from doubt about the relationship, and what helps.
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Neuroplasticity: how talking literally changes the brain
The brain changes throughout life. What happens inside it during therapy, why repetition matters, and where the limits of neuroplasticity lie.
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