Dating app fatigue: why more choice does not make choosing easier
You swipe, you match, the chat goes quiet — and you close the app emptier than when you opened it. Where the fatigue comes from, what research shows and how to use…
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Fused or cut off: two ways a relationship loses its balance
One person drowns in the relationship, the other runs from it — yet it's the same problem. Do you recognise your pole? And that both often live in one person?
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Vaginismus: when your body says no, even though you say yes
With vaginismus the body closes up even when you want sex. What keeps it going, why a gynaecologist comes first and how it can be treated — alone and as a couple.
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A teenage girl and her body: what a parent can do
Within a few years a girl moves from a body she lives in to a body she watches. What she hears at home, and what a parent can do so that home…
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Why people quit therapy: five reasons and two critical moments
Roughly one in five clients ends therapy early. Why it happens, when it happens most often, and what helps make leaving unnecessary. The first post in a series on ending therapy.
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When others keep you in guilt: recognising emotional blackmail
Hurt feelings, martyrdom, silence, love made conditional — recognise the pattern? How emotional blackmail (FOG) works, and how to respond without giving in or going to war.
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When you decide to separate: couples therapy that helps you end well
Couples therapy is not only for couples who stay together. How a therapist can help you end a relationship, protect the children, become co-parents and say goodbye with dignity.
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Why people used to leading find it so hard to start therapy
Control, vulnerability and the fear of losing standing: why the most capable people seek help last — and why therapy is not a repair job but a space.
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The conversation about last wishes we all put off — and how to begin it
Why it is so hard to talk with our parents about their last wishes, what research shows about these conversations, and how to begin with a first sentence that does not sound…
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How to apologise and how to forgive — yourself included
Why does "sorry" so often fall flat? We look at the five ingredients of a real apology and at what forgiveness actually is — including when you owe it to yourself.
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