Arguing in front of children: when it harms and how to repair it
It is not parents' disagreement that harms a child, but the way they argue and whether it ends in making up. What the research shows and what to tell your child afterwards.
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What a therapist must not do: boundaries, ethics and when to end the relationship at once
Responsibility for boundaries in therapy always lies with the therapist. What a therapist must never do, what is a grey zone, when they may end the relationship, and where to turn in…
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Donor conception: what it means for a child's identity
When a child is conceived with a donor's help, the story isn't only the parents'. What research says about telling, why parents fear it, and how to give a child a story…
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Emotional baggage from your family of origin: what we carry into our relationships
Into every relationship you bring a suitcase of rules, roles and unfinished stories from childhood. Take a look at what's inside — and at what is worth keeping.
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When everything comes at once: cumulative loss and how to get through it
When losses pile up one on top of another, there is no time to grieve each of them. Why losses add up, what this does to the body and how to get…
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When it is right to leave therapy: signs that the therapy or therapist isn't right
Not every leaving is running away. When leaving is the right decision, what makes a good therapeutic alliance, and why "that's your resistance" must not close the conversation. The third post in…
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How to say what you think without the relationship falling apart
Nodding along in the meeting, then giving the speech in the shower? Learn to say your piece in four steps — clearly, without attack, and without losing the relationship.
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When a woman is the abuser: a subject we rarely hear about
Women can use violence too — against a male partner, a female partner or within the family. Why men stay silent, what research shows and how to talk about it without downplaying…
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When the audience forgets you: the end of fame as a loss nobody acknowledges
When fame fades, you don't only lose gigs and money, but the mirror, the rhythm, belonging and your story about yourself. Why this is a real loss and how to grieve a…
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When it's too much: why people leave just as therapy begins
People often leave therapy just as it touches the heart of things. The window of tolerance, flight into health, the shame of having told — and how to tell "too much" from…
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