Overthinking: why thoughts go round in circles and how to step out
Rumination disguises itself as problem solving, but it isn't looking for a solution, it's looking for certainty. Here is the overthinking loop and where you can step out of it.
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What to say to someone who can't get pregnant (and what not to)
“Just relax” and “why don’t you adopt?” hurt, even when they’re meant kindly. Which sentences wound in the face of infertility, what to say instead, and how to repair it when you…
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When you think it would be better if you weren't here: on suicidal thoughts
Suicidal thoughts are more common than you think, and they pass. How to talk about them, how to ask someone you love, and how to make a safety plan.
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Minority stress: the load those around you do not see
Minority stress is the additional, lasting load carried by people who belong to a stigmatised group. Where it comes from, how it shows in the body and in relationships, and what eases…
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A single thought can ruin your whole day — if you believe it
A thought is not a fact, it is a suggestion. Learn the step back: why fighting a thought strengthens it, and how notice–name–let go works.
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Worth only as much as you get done: self-image and productivity
If you only value yourself when you are useful, success brings relief rather than peace. What contingent self-worth is, where it comes from and how your worth can move somewhere else.
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A safety plan for abuse: what it is and how to put one together
A safety plan is not a danger assessment, and it is not only for people who are leaving. What it covers while you stay, while you leave and after you have left…
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Burnout in athletes: when the love of sport fades
Exhaustion, the sense that you are not improving, and a sport you no longer care about. What athlete burnout is, how it differs from overtraining and what perfectionism has to do with…
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Why starting is hard and keeping going is harder: what dopamine says about motivation
Motivation is not a character trait but the neurobiology of anticipation. Find out why starting is hard, where the drive disappears to, and why habits beat discipline.
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Sudden wealth: what happens to your identity and your friendships
A win, the sale of a company or an inheritance changes far more than a bank balance overnight. On identity, hedonic adaptation, envy and how relationships shift.
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