Stepmother, stepfather: a role without instructions
What is a new partner's job with the children, who gets to say “no”, and where does the other parent fit in? On a role with no script, and how to write…
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In-depth writing on psychotherapy, emotions and relationships — clear to read, grounded in the profession.
What happens in a first couples therapy session
Who speaks first, what the therapist asks, what individual sessions are for, and what to realistically expect once the door closes behind you again.
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Depression and sleep: why you sleep too much or too little
Sleep almost always changes in depression — it shortens for some people and lengthens for others. Why the link runs both ways and what you can do today.
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12 questions about psychotherapy everyone asks but few dare say aloud
Will you judge me, what if I have nothing to say, does it stay between us, will I become dependent — honest answers to the questions that go unspoken.
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When your brother or sister won't help care for your parents
Why caring for an ageing parent almost always falls on one child, what it stirs up between siblings, and how to ask for help in a way the other person can actually…
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Generalised anxiety disorder: when worry becomes a way of life
When worry stops being just worry, why it is driven by intolerance of uncertainty and takes credit for a calm that would have come anyway — and what really helps.
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Assertiveness: how to say what you want without aggression or apology
Between apologising and exploding there is a third way. How to recognise your style, shape an I-message and stay clear even under pressure.
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Who actually goes to psychotherapy: a portrait of the people I meet in my room
Not people on the edge but people who function. Who really sits in the other chair — and who never arrives at all.
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Always reachable: what a phone that never switches off does to you
A work phone on the dinner table. What constant availability does to a mind that never detaches, to a team that sets rules without words, and to your relationship at home.
ReadEMDR therapy: how it works and who it is for
EMDR doesn't erase a memory, it takes away its force. How its eight phases work, what research shows, who it is well supported for and when something else comes first.
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