In-depth writing on psychotherapy, emotions and relationships — clear to read, grounded in the profession.
Your partner will not come to therapy? You are not condemned to wait. What one person can do for the relationship, and how to invite without it sounding like an accusation.
ReadThe line does not run through what is on the plate, but through how much room it takes from you and what happens inside when the plan fails.
ReadIn our minds eating disorders have the face of a teenage girl. So adults stay silent about their decades - and nobody asks.
ReadAn argument in therapy is not an incident, it is material. Learn the rules of safe arguing and how a therapist holds the frame when feelings boil over.
ReadIn men the same mechanism points the other way - and because it looks like a virtue, it gets rewarded instead of noticed.
ReadPeople with ADHD often function successfully, but with hidden extra effort that slowly drains the reserve. Why ADHD and burnout meet so often, and what helps differently.
ReadControlling food really does settle anxiety - but only briefly. Why the loop keeps itself running, and what actually breaks it.
ReadComing out to your family is hard even at forty. What research shows about parents' responses, how to prepare for the conversation, and what to do if your family does not accept…
ReadCriticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling: the four patterns that, according to Gottman, most reliably predict a breakup. Learn to spot them and their antidotes.
ReadBetween criticism and accommodation there is a narrow third road. What actually helps, where partners exhaust themselves, and when a doctor comes first.
ReadIf one of these posts spoke to you, you are welcome to simply write to me.
