Codependency: when you rescue someone else and lose yourself
A pattern in which your worth hangs on how much of someone else you hold up. How to recognise it, why the concept is contested, and where the work really starts.
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Growing up with violence: what a child carries into adulthood
A child who grew up around violence often carries watchfulness, shame and unease around closeness into adulthood. These are not flaws of character — and they are not destiny.
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Am I an addict? Questions that say more than quantity
How much you drink is the least reliable measure, because it can always be adjusted. Six questions that are harder to bend - and where this reasoning stops.
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From putting out fires to understanding causes: the depth of individual therapy
You put out each fire, and the landscape keeps catching alight. The difference between easing symptoms and structural change, and when easing them is genuinely enough.
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Phone and screen addiction: habit or problem?
"Phone addiction" is not a diagnosis, but the distress is real. What separates a habit from a problem, why screen time says little, and where the research overreaches.
Read“Narcissist”: a word we reach for too quickly
Today the narcissist is the ex, the boss and the mother-in-law. How selfishness, immaturity and a personality disorder differ, and why a label rarely helps.
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Work addiction: the one addiction people reward
Nobody congratulates you for drinking more, but working more brings praise and promotion. That is why this pattern stays invisible longest - and why hours are the wrong measure.
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When your teenager tells you who they love: sexual orientation and support at home
When a teenager tells their parents about their sexual orientation, they are not just sharing a fact but asking whether home is still safe. What happens in them and in you —…
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A safe space: why the therapy room differs from every other conversation
A safe space is not an atmosphere but a structure: confidentiality, neutrality, no consequences for your relationships, predictability and acceptance. The body checks it.
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A relapse is not a defeat: what really happens after a slip
A lapse is an event; a relapse is a decision made over the following days. What happens in the first hours, why shame is more dangerous than the substance, and what helps.
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